Let the Bible Speak
Divine in Origin
God created man.
"And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground
and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living
soul." (Genesis 2.7.)
God gave him a place to live.
"And the Lord God took the man and put him
into the garden of Eden to dress it and keep it." (Genesis 2.15.)
God made woman for man's wife.
"And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman,
and brought her unto the man." (Gen. 2.22.)
United in marriage as one.
"Therefore shall a man leave his father and
mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh."
Divine in Purpose
To bring children into the world.
And God blessed them and God said unto
them, Be fruitful and multiply. (Genesis 1.28.)
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man
should be alone, I will make him an help meet for him. (Gen. 2.18.)
To avoid fornication.
To avoid fornication, let every woman have her own
husband. (1 Cor. 7.2.)
What Is Marriage?
It is the uniting of a man
and a woman who have a right to marry for the
purpose of establishing a home. The uniting takes place by God when the couple
complete customary rites and mutually agree before God and witnesses to live
together as husband and wife until death. This is the vow or contract of a
lawful marriage. (Mal. 2.1-14.) God does not honor trial marriages or marriages
of unscripturally divorced people.
Marriage is permanent.
What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder.
Marriage is monogamous.
This means one man for one woman and one woman for one man. Polygamy is sinful.
(Gen. 2.24; 1 Cor. 7.2.) If one desires to be a Christian he must repent. (Acts
2.38.) Repentance requires that he put away all mates but the lawful one. The
person can then be baptized (immersed) into Christ. Human predicament, such as
a childless marriage, does not change God's law. Tribal laws do not control our
lives, but the law of Christ. There is no place for a second wife or husband
even in childless marriages. Christ comes first.
Who May Marry?
Those who have a right to marry.
Mature people. (Matthew 19.5.)
Those who love each other. (Ephesians 5.25; Titus 2.4-5.)
Those who are not married. (1 Corinthians 7.28.)
Those scripturally free from former companions by either death or divorce on
grounds of adultery. (Romans 7.2; Matthew 19.9.)
It is desirable and advisable that Christians marry Christians. (2 Cor. 6.14.)
Unscriptural Practices in Marriage
Testing one's fertility before customary rites.
Pouring drinks to the gods or ancestors.
Giving of immoral things to parents for bride price.
Immodest dress or actions at a wedding. Christians are children of Light, not
darkness. (Ephesians 5.8-11.) To do such things destroys one's influence.
Customs must agree with the Bible or be dropped. If a custom does not violate a
Christian principle or one's own conscience, there is no harm in it. We must
obey God rather than men. (Acts 5.29.) We are to love God more than parents or
customs. (Matthew 10.37.)
Mutual Responsibilities in Marriage
The husband to the wife.
He is to love and honor her. (Ephesians 5.25; 1 Peter 3.7.)
He is the head of the wife. (1 Corinthians 11.3.)
He is to be faithful to her. (Heb. 13.4.)
He is to support her. (1 Timothy 5.8.)
The wife to the husband.
She loves him. (Titus 2.4-5.)
She is to be in subjection to him. (Ephesians 5.22.)
She is to make a home by taking care of her husband and her household. (Titus
2.5; 1 Timothy 5.14.)
Parents to the children.
To teach and train them. (Deuteronomy 31.13; Proverbs 22.6.)
To discipline them. (Ephesians 6.4.)
To be a worthy example to them. (2 Timothy 1.5.)
Fornication (adultery) is the one and only ground for divorce and remarriage.
(Matt. 19.9.) If there is no adultery, you must work for a reconciliation or
remain separated and single. (1 Cor. 7.10-15.)
Matthew 19.9 teaches that the offended party who puts away the fornicating
party is the only one who may remarry. The fornicator cannot remarry! If your
mate has died you are free to remarry. (Romans 7.2.) The party they choose to
marry must be free or eligible to marry.